Men have their "attraction mechanisms" "triggered" by much different things than women.

For women, things usually begin with a small spark.

Eye contact for a little too long.

A Cocky & Funny comment.

A teasing remark.

It can be anything.

The point is that SOMETHING SPARKS the ATTRACTION.

Then it GROWS over time.

It doesn't have to be a lot of time, but it does usually require time.

It might take an evening, or it might take a date or two... but if a man does all the right things he can AMPLIFY one these little sparks of attraction into a powerful emotional feeling for a woman... that is too much for her to resist.

Of course, as we both know, a man can usually feel a sexual attraction to a woman INSTANTLY.

Men totally don't get how things work for women.

So we tend to do all the WRONG things.

And when we do all the WRONG things, women don't even get the little sparks that can grow into full-blown ATTRACTION.

WHY TENSION?

So let's talk about Sexual Tension...

Why "Tension"?

Most people don't like the idea of "tension".

It's uncomfortable.

It usually means confrontation or dealing with someone who's mad at you or who doesn't like you.

Tension is seen as a NEGATIVE by most people.

And when most men feel ANY type of tension around a woman, they make a HUGE mistake...

THEY RELEASE THE TENSION.

Because most guys are so caught up in the "tension is bad" way of thinking, they DESTROY all of the great Sexual Tension that arises in the situations they find themselves in with women.

It's a total bummer.

So the first thing I'm going to ask you to do, for the purposes of understanding this concept, is to put your ideas of what tension is and how it works behind you.

Open your mind to a new way of thinking.

Become OK with the idea of CREATING TENSION when you're around women that you feel an attraction for... and even AMPLIFYING that tension.

And realize that if you can do this, women will LOVE you for it.

Women, and especially ATTRACTIVE women who are approached all the time by loser guys, don't enjoy dating guys who are boring, predictable, and lame.

They love guys who are unpredictable, mysterious, and CHALLENGING.

They love guys who keep them guessing what's going to happen next.

And they love guys who can keep the TENSION BUILDING, and NOT LET UP.

HOW TO DO IT

So here are a few ideas for "sparking" that initial tension that I'm talking about...

1) TEASE.

If you want to INSTANTLY change the way a hot, stuck-up woman is behaving, TEASE HER about something.

Now, not all beautiful women are stuck up.

Duh.

But teasing works PARTICULARLY well when a woman IS stuck up... lol.

Maybe it's her big purse.

Or her tall shoes.

Or her "runway model" walk.

Whatever.

Just tease her.

Say "Hey, what's with the big purse? You're not one of those women with a live dog named "Precious" in there, along with organic vegan high-protein treats for when she's in the mood to be pampered, are you?"

It doesn't matter.

Just say something to tease her.

Oh, and it's usually better if you can do this with a STRAIGHT FACE. This creates even MORE tension.

If you MUST smile, make sure it's the "I'm only smiling because I know that you can't believe how confident I am that you love me" kind.

2) EYE CONTACT

When a man and a woman make eye contact for the FIRST TIME, it's USUALLY the man who looks away first.

Men are WUSSIES when it comes to doing things that say "I'm a strong, confident person".

Looking away when you make eye contact with a woman is one of those things. BIG TIME.

Instead, if you HOLD the eye contact until SHE looks away (and you don't fidget or twitch like you've got some strange bug crawling up your shirt), it will send a strong signal.

Oh, and it has a good chance of "sparking" this attraction that we're talking about.

3) ROLL PLAY

Often an opportunity will come up when you're meeting a woman to instantly shift into a "roll play".

Maybe she mentions that she's getting a new job. Tell her that you sure hope it pays well, because she's going to have to support both of you...

And then tell her that you hope she has enough energy to cook at night after work, because you need a wife who can bring home the bacon, AND fry it up in a pan...

Then tell her that something she just said screwed it all up for you, and that you're probably going to wind up divorcing her a week after you get married... and taking half of HER money.

Roll-playing is fun, and if it's done right it can REALLY spark this tension that we're talking about.

The point is that you have to SPARK it.

YOU must lead the way, and YOU must do something to create that little moment where things transition into "we're playing like adults". Women feel this, and respond to it INSTANTLY.

TURNING UP THE TENSION

Now, once you've sparked this tension and engaged her into an interesting banter, it's time to DIAL UP THE TENSION.

That's right, I said CREATE MORE TENSION.

Let's say that you were talking to her about making a lot of money so she can support you, and she answered with "Well, I can support you, but you're going to have to do all the housework, dishes, and take care of the kids".

Most guys would be thinking to themselves "Cool, she's having fun with me, I'll say something to make her like me now".

So they'd say "OK, I can do that" or something equally dumb-assed.

This is the place to TURN IT UP.

Say "Oh no you don't. I'm the man here. I get to lay around all day watching T.V., then go out with my friends when you get home".

Reversing gender stereotypes like this, and teasing is all kinds of fun.

At this point the woman might open her mouth with the "Oh no you didn't just say that" look.

Of course, you should look back at her, raise our eyebrows, and slowly nod your head, as if to imply "Oh yes, you're going to support me".

This is just one example.

Here are a few more, just so you really "get" what it is that I'm saying.

1) DON'T take advantage of something.

Let's say that the woman you're talking to is wearing a sexy outfit. She gets up and walks across the room to get something. She KNOWS that you're going to be looking at her.

BUT YOU DON'T.

When she turns around to come back, you're looking down at your shoes, and commenting about what great taste you have.

THIS IS SUBTLE, BUT POWERFUL.

Not taking advantage of a look, a touch, a kiss, etc. when it's available DIALS UP the Sexual Tension.

2) Push her away.

Let's say that you have your first kiss.

PUSH HER AWAY gently just before the kiss "should" be finished.

Shake your head.

Say "you're trouble".

TENSION BUILDS.

3) End interactions first.

If you're talking to her on the phone, and you're both enjoying the conversation, say "OK, I've got things to do. See ya."

This is MAGIC.

Not only are you ending a great conversation when it was on an UP note, but you're also not trying to get anything from her.

Most guys cling and stay on the phone forever, then ask for a date or if they can call later.

DON'T DO IT.

Just get off the phone.

If it's the end of the date, leave just a little bit too soon.

The point is to create TENSION in the moment.

EVERYDAY SITUATIONS

In just about every situation there is an opportunity to TURN UP THE TENSION.

When you do this, you create a very special emotion for women.

It's that combination of her laughing, her not knowing what's going to come next, and you not acting like a WUSSY...

It's that special curiosity that is aroused inside of a woman when she doesn't know what's going to happen... but she WANTS to know...

It's that magical moment when it's obvious that most guys would start acting like CLINGY WUSSBAGS, and you're just leaning back as if you've got all the time in the world... and you need nothing.